Purpose~Give Life a meaning

“One life right? I gave my best so I have no room for regrets. I am strong and I choose happiness always 😊

People like you around doing wonders inspire me and makes me more happy :* (Honestly)

I read each piece of your work, it’s just that I find less time to talk(Mom life na,24hours busy)”

She replied this …her words about giving her best and choosing happiness gives more meaning to life ..isn’t it ?

So one of this girl whom I have always seen smiling and cheerful, sharing posts on social media having fun be it with friends, colleagues or her Family.

In one sentence I would say Working young bubbly Female.

With a genuine Smile ..Happy people do not really exists .

I am not a really close friend of her but a mutual friend and yes of course know her because we were working in the same place.

With her posts I knew that she was married and enjoying motherhood.

I have many friends posting different things but this one though always had something different to say with every post of her, which definitely was positive always.

Couple of months ago i found that It was now different and it was very rare to see her posts ….It was no more that she was enjoying as a princess but showed that she chose to live life on her own now .

Looking at one of her recent post I couldn’t resist myself texting her and ask her about the change  ..the change that I could see in her and the way she carried herself was something that makes me write this .

So yes after a small conversation I understood that she went through tough phase of life but did not give up ..instead she chose to Live happy , be herself and follow her heart.

So yes this is what she said at the end😊

Now this gives me something to write about purpose of life ,woman bring a meaning to life without giving up .

“Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when you are the answer.” — Joseph Campbell

Being a smart woman don’t let someone break you, there are moments in your life where you feel like giving up and you can’t take it anymore.

Love Yourself:

You must have heard from many sources about loving yourself, but do we really do that?

This is not  possible unless you start taking care of yourself at first.

Now when I say taking care of yourself it’s not just concentrating on your diet (Ahem ..)

Know that there’s a loving child inside you, whom you should take care of .

You gotta love this kid more, cherish, honour and this is when you become more alive and feel more energetic neglecting all the negative vibes.

Stop comparing yourself with others because this is one of the reason when you start disliking yourself .

Let go things:

I learnt to let go things and trust me it worked like charm.

You can’t control everything , you gotta learn to let go things which are not meant to be part of your life.

I’ll not say that let things happen on it’s own , you try your best to change if it doesn’t work then let go .

This will definitely keep you happy and concentrate and learn something new .

Let go Critics.. if anyone tells you that you are not good at something you either improvise on it or if you know the person is letting you down , let go such.

Start celebrating for who you are today and for what you have.

Today is a gift, that’s why we call it present:

My intention about writing I am was always to convey message about believing and living in present.

So yes if you have read my first blog “I Am~Believe in Present “ I wouldn’t stress much on this as I have demonstrated one good example there .

Don’t depend on someone for your happiness:

You are responsible for your happiness, blaming others for your happiness should not be the attitude.

It all depends on who you surround yourself with , don’t depend on people for your happiness. 
Don't let someone else decide about your happiness ..don't wait for others to surprise you ,why not surprise yourself everyday and Don’t be so quick to judge someone , you never know what are they going through .

Learn to say no:

When you gotta say No , it is a NO ..do not say YES when you want to say NO.

If there is something that doesn’t make you happy then politely say NO to it, Save your time for doing things that make you happy.Stop thinking how other person will react if you say NO and be pleased ,You don’t really need to explain yourself before saying NO.

Know yourself :

It is always good to know what you are good at , know what you love about yourself .

Take some time and find out what you enjoy ,This way you start loving yourself and stop comparing with others .

Not just this but also don’t have any spaces to criticise about things that go wrong but only think about your passion at a higher level.

Me being so sensitive is not easy to find my identity so early , but I know I am influenced by people around, so I make an effort to understand what is good for me and take time to understand .

Be silly :

You will find it silly but yea this is true, this was the reason I put this at the end.

Let me be honest , most of the readers know that I am workaholic ..yes , I confess this .

But along with this I’m someone who enjoys being with her family , friends (Who I think it is worth spending time with) and my four legged furry angel (My Pet).

It is not really a task now to balance between my work life and personal but it is something that makes me happy.

So yes , sometimes being silly with friends and family is the best therapy to keep yourself happy, You should know when and how to stop at serious moments .

With this I hope to empower and inspire women to believe that they can bring more meaning to life ..

 So now …Don’t seek but bring positivity.

Make a Difference ~“One person can make all the difference. And that one person is YOU!”

Making Difference!!

“Hey Pooja.. Just read ur blog😍😍😍

It was tooo gud❤ and i cud relate few that happened to me as well..

As u mentioned Deepak s one such amazing person..We luv him for what he is.. 😇

And all the very best🥰 Keep going❤👍🏻”

I receive this message from Sumi , one of my colleague .

Reading this early morning was like start of the day rewarding myself .

You don’t really know how you bring a positive impact in someone’s life , I did receive many messages posts of course for writing “I am” but when you know someone has faced challenges and would like to bring the change within that’s when I think I make a difference .

I received another message maybe after an hour ago from Ann-

“⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐🌈

I am SO PROUD OF YOU 👏👏😚

I love your confidence to share your story.

Your journey and our formed connection is truly meant to be, a planned miracle.

I love that you are blogging and sharing. You know as I’ve always mentored “knowledge is power” and kindness matters.

I’m so so proud of you and beyond🌈

I’m so touched I wished to speak face to face so I can speak directly to you but I show it’s 6:53am in morning. But if in cab on way to work, Face Time me.

Please keep sharing your story..”

I thank all the readers :)

 She has of course been another person who has always encouraged and influenced me in last 3 years .

I started writing I AM because I believe living in the present and hence all my blogs would be only about how you change yourself , how you create a positive environment around you.

Making a difference , when you hear this what do you think about ?

I never understood unless Deepak told me during one of our conversation , he happened to say that –“But they are not making any difference hence are in the same role “

 A happy work environment attracts people and helps us do best for the company.

I’ll share my best experiences that I have learnt at workplace.

So my first work place, it is definitely a happy environment and I was lucky to meet people who influenced and shared knowledge.

Working with Deepak and his team was more like working to build ideas and trust, My Job designation, my job role or title did not really matter as I have explained in my first blog.

Working with him I had learnt to demonstrate ownership and leadership in every role that was given to me.

So when I talk about making difference it is not just about helping the poor or  being part of social welfare  .

It is about how important your presence is wherever you go,

You can talk about making a difference or You make a difference.

Well, since I am writing this for people who are working I shall relate things to work environment and share ideas in this blog.

So it is like Regardless of your job title, your role can make a difference, It shows the leadership and ideas .

I remember when I was asked to handle newly formed team I did not realise why was i asked to go there and maybe after working few days with them I understood their challenges.

It took about a week for me to get along with these guys but meanwhile I also did ask Deepak as in how long will I be here and if I’ll be going back to my previous team soon , (That was my senior role) and he always kept saying once this team is stabilised .

He said –“You were here because management thinks that you can make difference, they trust you and hence have given you this role”

Well , this is not something new for me the reason being I have been working with Deepak for long and there is no such job which is too small, Even the smallest job matters. 

It is all you , your role , how you take it and how much difference you make .

I must have taken 2 more different roles so far after this I believe  …

Now when I say making difference.. it is not at all about your performance review or meeting your numbers , it’s more like personally recognising and rewarding yourself.

When someone from management believes in you and asks you to take up a role because they believe that you can do it ,isn’t it like rewarding yourself personally ??

So here are few things which are I think important to carry in day to day not only professional but personal life when you really want to make difference and transform every job into a positive experience.

The most important thing before all is :

Be transparent and ask –

If you have a question, then ask.

Deepak has always encouraged an environment where you are open to ask him anything, Be transparent , Honest and share results .

I was asked to reach out right people and learnt to adapt things to be flexible and handle things more efficiently .

Too often it happens that employee makes up his own answer or they share what they think the manager wants to hear.

Someone who doesn’t know the answer also makes up his own answer with a fear of not disappointing the person asking the question. So this is not an option to expand your knowledge , it is okay to question top level and take time and get back to your customer or whoever it is .

Listen :

I believe that Listening is equal to learning .

Whether you are in higher level position or a new bee for more knowledge it is important to share ideas of course ..but yes very important to listen .

Listening to them will help you know the individual and build trust.

If you put your ego to the side, you’ve got a better chance of dealing with difficult people at work.

You got to be more open to people when it comes to work , its then when people start approaching you .

Find what’s missing :

When you want to make something different you need to step outside and find an opportunity. Think of an idea … be It streamlining the process or anything which you think is missing and you bring it to notice that everyone else is missing .

 This new start will give you more exposure because you have come up with the idea , you have the thought process .

Few of us do want to change anything but just follow what has been thought by our seniors.

But you will make the difference if you come up with new idea and find if there is something missing and you make can make it better.

With this attitude you will learn to take up initiatives and demonstrate leadership qualities.

Show Empathy :

This is something that I understood during my soft skill training sessions but could never implement it for first few months.

So this is something that I had learnt from school environment and my parents of course ,

But never knew if this will really work in bringing the change in work environment .

 So Empathy is basically the ability to see things from someone else’s perspective and to relate it —this is extremely important in teamwork and leadership.

Other than this as I have shared few points in my previous blog “Be the Change “ where I have discussed about Gratitude is again very important when you make difference .

So I have learnt all this from few people at workplace , I hope you enjoyed learning this.

Now do not just work for the sake of it but let your presence make the difference!!