The Power of Belief!!

 The Power of BELIEF

 

 

It's been about roughly seven months since I last visited my favorite spot,

I was there today, where I spent some time relaxing with a cup of coffee, feeling the breeze, and admiring the sunset. While appreciating the serenity and reflecting on myself, I realized that it has been a while since I've blogged.

I guess,I just needed a break. After a long time, I'm thrilled and eager to write anything again. I rush down the stairs and head straight to my desk.

 

As I sit down to write this blog, my mind races back to all the moments when I stumbled upon, where I felt doomed, there is a vivid picture of all the scenes flowing in my mind, like mom saying- Pooja , Jo liya hain poora karo, (Just finish, whatever you start), Friends asking me about my whereabouts, Someone asking me if I am still preparing, Someone saying how long will you take to finish the course, just do it, you will do it, etc, etc...

 

While writing this, I am constantly smiling, thinking of the moment when...A smile spread uncontrollably across my lips as I swayed gently on my feet, absorbing the precious moment. All the late-night, early-morning study sessions, the sacrifices made to prepare for this exam—all led to this one, glorious confirmation. The sheet of printout in my hand - It was a milestone, evidence of perseverance and determination.  

 

As I swayed to the unseen rhythm, I silently thanked every individual who had supported me along the way, knowing that this moment was as much theirs as it was mine.

 

So.. Belief- What comes to your mind, when I say this? Don’t you think very few say this?

 Believing in someone is often easier said than done. It requires the willingness to trust despite of all the uncertainties.

I never fully understood the depth of this until I recently cracked one of the exams.

It was a moment that not just tested my capacity but also the trust and belief that my dear ones had in me.

It is a known fact that no one is always 100% confident!! Of course, I am not confident about myself sometimes. Gosh, I am not at all confident ..most of the time!! My periods are delayed whenever I doubt myself, and I think I’m not worthy, not smart enough, or not good enough. And that’s okay, totally okay NOT to feel amazing all the time.

The time when you have lost your self-confidence and where you doubt yourself, and your capabilities, this is where someone else believing in you does the MAGIC!!

 

I can give you many examples – Like, the children experiencing the encouragement that comes with their parents believing in them, 

Leaders who trust their teams are able to delegate more effectively, and That feeling of knowing your spouse trusts you and believes in you and will see you through all those hard times life will bring your way.  

 

There's a really good story my brother keeps telling me about how Dad believed in him and how things changed after that.

 

Pooja, jo shuru kiya hain,usey poora karo (Just finish, whatever you start) You can do it!! 

This was something my mom would stress to me whenever I was Procrastinating during the exam preparation.

She had more faith in me than I had in myself. Every time she said this to me, there was an air of positivity.  I am sure you would have come across many instances like this, at least once.

 

It’s just one of the examples that I am sharing here. Well, I am grateful enough for having positive people around me who always encouraged me.

 

When someone says I believe in you – that’s the most beautiful gift you can ever receive.

 

Your confidence increases, you work harder and correct yourself, you become braver, and start aiming higher. And when someone is specific about why they believe in you, it can often make you more aware of and more confident in your strengths.

 

When we recognize that someone is trusting us, we don’t want to do anything that would damage that trust as we realize how valuable a gift it is.

 

For me, It knocks down the barriers I've built myself (by saying it’s impossible, I have no time to do it, I have other commitments), giving me a clear path to reach my goals.

 

 

I think that Trust is not just about the other person, but also you trusting someone or giving hope reflects your own ability to listen and understand. So, choosing hope over uncertainty- is the key. When reflecting on your own beliefs and trust, consider that each act of faith has the opportunity for potential growth and development.

 

So here is the Conclusion - The powerful gift you can give someone is to believe in them. 

Never underestimate the impact you can have on somebody’s life by believing in them and helping them to believe in themselves. Take it from me who has experienced the miracle of this – it will change their world 🙂

 

Hello 30s !!

Hello 30s ...Adieu 20s !!!

The silver line on the sky looks crystal clear, the fresh non polluted air ,the greenery around ,the silence on the roadside and the mornings are like I walk by with a cup of Green tea saying Hello ,Good Morning to my family and the tiny tots (Nephews) around when working.

There are only Virtual meetings now , I talk less and type more...

My room is no longer my room ..but it's my office now.

Yes, this is the New Norm these days.

To be honest…Before this I never imagined myself having green tea.

It surprises me how it takes the entire world coming to a stop for us to realize that maybe we’ve been doing something wrong.

It’s true that the Pandemic has led to hard times but it has brought some positives ,it has forced us to take a step back, think and appreciate what it means to live and not just survive.

Well , another 2 months and I’ll be completing my 20s and I am super excited to step in my 30s with a firm understanding of who I am ,what I value and what keeps me motivated each day.

Over the past decade I have experienced lot of things off my bucket list and I can’t imagine having better 20s.


In my last 2 years of Twenties ..The pandemic let me stay home, live new norm life and trust me it has changed the whole perspective…staying home on weekends use to be a task but not now.

I still have new goals and my bucket list to strive for ....

I really want to share some advice to myself before stepping into my 30s…because being a Woman is like a whole thing , isn’t it ?? I am like ...Girllll are you gonna turn 30??? WHAAAAATTTTTT? while writing this ...Phewww...

 For those reading this article and are about to step in their 30s or maybe are cherishing their 30s… I hope this article leaves you with a smile and much wiser.

So here is To My 30s from my 20s!!!!!!

With a positive note to start with ...

you are not old ...but at 30, you will be young enough to look forward!!



Life isn’t bad ..Cherish every Moment –

I must say this, the challenge is appreciating and working with the new and unique opportunities that you are given.

Instead of sulking in the negatives, the Pandemic eventually taught me to view life through a positive lens. So rather than focusing on the inability to go out and see friends, I took this opportunity to spend extra time with my family, learn to cook, exercise regularly and discovered new art crafts I could do.

I had always been so caught up in the grand events of life that I forgot how meaningful the small, intimate moments were too.

So Cherish the “hellos” exchanged on your daily walks.

Appreciate the liveliness of a fun grocery shopping trip, the joy of a lunch date with family and the comfort.



Health comes first:

Don’t disregard your physical health, It’s not about looking physically fit ..it’s about appreciating the impact physical health has on your mental health or the other way round. In future if you don't want to scrutinize your bloated tummy and realize that change in diet is essential then start taking care of your health. I have developed healthy habits, however miss out to workout sometimes. 

You may tend to skip working out sometimes which can go long for weeks but do not miss and probably dedicate 20 mins out of your schedule for your health.

So Drink good amount of water, Get enough sleep, Eat healthy and treat your body like that’s the incredible thing 😉





It’s Okay to say Sorry and Thank you:

Yes, being the stubborn child I never realized that I never apologized to my parents or be it anyone in the family for anything that I did.. I mean… I never meant to do this..

Since we had enough time to exchange talks and have fun, they seem to be pretty chilled out and my thoughts about them being non friendly changed ...a small thank you and a sorry makes them comfortable. Don't miss to see their Precious smile .

So don’t forget to say thank you,  say sorry and yes don't forget to appreciate the lil things..



Do not regret about the choices you made !!

Looking back, I am thankful for all the choices I made and opportunities I created for myself and the people I met, it wasn’t a perfect one though I know I messed up lot of other things but that’s okay ..You learn from your mistakes !!

So I want to tell you this , Please don’t carry regrets for what is already happened.

Maybe at that point of time you thought it was good for you and you went along with it , so do not have any regrets for the decisions you made ,,,remember sometimes it’s good to take calculative risks.

Just appreciate and acknowledge a moment..

Take a chance and talk , raise your voice , your opinions-

Just don’t keep it to yourself,

You have been doing this in your 20s ,so I really want you to take this forward in your 30s..

Take chances, You took a chance and it worked ,

it did not work all the time and you corrected yourself…and that’s what made your journey interesting.. isn’t it ?



Become financially responsible :

You did swing a lil immature in your 20s now you are really adult so firstly learn financial responsibilities.

Start planning, Like start evaluating on your financial progress, invest in mutual funds and protect your financial assets ,this will help you minimize risks,,

I am adding this in my bucket list ,While i am writing this i still have no knowledge of how to start with it but yes this is gonna really interesting part of 30s;)



Know your worth:

You are More than what others think about you,

Start prioritizing yourself and your goals, I know you ..at this point you may think if you are being selfish.

 

Nope, not at all. You are not being selfish, You are just thinking about yourself and there is no harm.

Don’t spend your time thinking what others think about you …Just be the way you are.


Take out some time for yourself. If you are doing this then you are Living it for yourself, it is worth it trust me.



Let go :

Something that ends doesn’t end the impact it had in your life.
Sometimes you will need to put an end to things which were once good. Just accept it and Let go.

Afterall , not everything is meant to last long or forever ..with my experience there is always something new waiting..


No one is against you , they are for themselves-

It’s totally okay if our thoughts do not match ,after all everyone have their own choices.

Dad says, everyone have their own choices already in mind …so when you share your opinion it is not that they are against you ..just that they are thinking about their own choices..

People are good , You may feel angry or low at certain point ..but don’t do that ..start seeing it from their perspective. They are merely doing what they feel is best to help themselves.

And you will easily shrug it off and move on.



Be Patient and this too shall pass-

I came across this phrase during this pandemic and it has impacted me the most and has helped me recentre.

It’s been quite a while now since this pandemic ..and looks like it’s almost over. Not completely but yes, I see offices and schools re opening with less crowd.


We all have been waiting for this to end patiently…we lost our dear ones, picked it up again with a hope every single day.. “ this too shall pass” .

Everything is fleeting ….so be Patient and this Too shall Pass..



Embrace your existence:

It’s okay to question the purpose of being there and seek answers, rather than being numb.

There is nothing wrong in putting yourself and your priorities first…!!

Friend of mine, Woman full of life is enjoying her 50s ..

I wake up and happen to see the pictures and the messages she sent ..one of the messages read like this “I’ve been so Focused on having fun…” she is definitely a ball of happiness and Energy.

It was proven that she just does not exist but is living the way she wants to!!

So this will be the last piece -Stop existing and be more present and mindful.... Don’t forget you are still Young to look forward 😉

Embrace all that is YOU!! :)

Your Turn!

What do you think we can add up to something in our 30s? Share your thoughts in the comment section below!

Letter to my "Dream"

“Take out some time for yourself , Sit back ,relax and look at the sunset …it’s important to spend some time with yourself too…”she said and there was a pause ..I was immersed in thoughts for a while..…not many thoughts started flowing but it was one single thought …when she said this ”sit back and look at….”

Looking at Sunset is of course peaceful ,it is beautiful in it’s very own way ..as it tells us how beautifully a day can end.

But neither Dawn nor the Dusk that took me back to memory  when she said this…I was engaged with my bucket list, my dream or call it one thing I have always wished to see.

I was less than 10 years old if I remember when I fell in love with the silent sky full of stars and I constantly gazed them.

I especially loved the vision of shooting star  (we call it tootta hua tara in Hindi), and In fact would wish to see shooting star shower some times ,while I am writing this I really want to go back to a place where I can see this vision again …😊 (you can imagine my heart is jumping in and out ).

There’s a myth of making a wish upon a shooting star which in turn will be fulfilled.

Well, that was never the reason for me to gaze nor I ever wanted to know the scientific reason behind this..

It just made me happy, looking at them their beauty spoke a lot about them .

You will enjoy the view more in villages or non polluted places which is not easy to find these days..

Trust me they'll say lot about you without uttering a word in the silent sky.. at least I imagine something like this.

I always look at the stars and think that they shine for me..

They shine for me and I am in the spotlight, there is silence but I hear the applauds and this light lit my face up and brightens my smile.

How the tiny bright dots could brighten up the dark sky and make it look so beautiful.

I`m certain that everybody of us have desires, and extra usually they’re fairly unreal sometimes like, I would like to win one million dollars, own a sports car, marry a charming prince and live in a palace, live in a Igloo etc etc etc…many right..

There are visions you think are accessible  for you like– being an entrepreneur, moving to a big city after graduating, studying abroad - are perfectly normal to have, and make life more exciting.

Everyone, no matter who they are, has a dream or a goal that they want to achieve, especially when it is challenging. There is no doubt in my mind that there is something unique to every individual when talking about dreams and goals.

it's perfectly okay to dream or set goals for yourself that may seem unattainable right now, and that's absolutely fine.

 

I too have one such desire...:)

And hence I am writing this open letter to one of My Dream..

 

I still love gazing at the stars however there is another beauty of universe that has attracted me..in last few years.

 I’m in love with colorful bands seen in the sky and I have added this to my Wishlist.

It’s not the rainbow , but something more than this which appears in the night ..adding beauty to the dazzling stars in the dark sky,

 A perfect gift of universe😊Magical one..

The Lights in the dark sky …Northern lights….yes the Northern lights ,

The natural light display in the Earth's sky…

Yes, I am writing it to those dancing angels ,we also call it an Aurora if you speak in scientific language…

When I saw you for the first time all I asked was ,Is this a sight of fire flies passing by .. nope it was not that.

You attracted me so much with your glimpse in the video i watched….it was absolutely magical moment. Absolutely unbelievable  when I saw the video ..

The beauty of universe,

The green hues and the blue ones,

Sometimes you are like swaying bands of colors,

Sometimes you resemble the bud blooming slowly,

Sometimes you are band of pink and then turn reddish and then again purplish..

The colors are so pure and bright …I believe in the creator, nothing can beat the gift of universe.

The changing shades , sometimes grow thick and then forms a line and sway ,swirl and then flow..

The lights sometimes come down so close to touch the earth and then you suddenly go up and then..

You overlay different colors each time and it’s so fascinating..

To me it seems like angels in heaven dancing and twirling in the space between the stars.

My eyes lit up when is see those lights flashing in the sky and I want to dance along with you ….but your graceful dance don’t let me take off my eyes away from you.

So I just lean back and look at you without a blink and let paint my thoughts along with you..

Those shining stars tells me how bright I am , the vibrant colorful bands twirling and dancing around like angels dancing in the heaven.

I feel like I am in the center stage and in the spot light ,these colors dancing around  me.. I am constantly looking at you and falling in love with each step of yours and every moment..

 

 I have silent music playing  in the background …seeing you perform nature’s best show..

Having a moment with you is such a pleasure.. I wish I get to spend time with you once. And we only look at each other talk nothing but our silence speak lot of things..

 

I only loved the stars before this and then you painted the dark sky with variant band of colors and showed how gracefully I can paint my life even in the darkness..

Before this my mama complained me for not coming down as I spent more time on the terrace looking at the stars..

and now she complains me for watching your videos online every night😉

I watch YouTube videos and sometimes watch live videos to see you ..but you appear only after I fall asleep.

You are just magical , unbelievable, astounding and unimaginable.. it is a Miraculous  fairy tale sometimes for me seeing you ..

 Chasing you in my thoughts give me hope and happiness…

You taught me shine and become your own light and follow your own path.

And not worry about the darkness around ..

 

I am blessed to be born in era where I get to see you so closely though I am really far from you.

So I wish to see you ,The best night show of the universe when I look up in the dark sky and see a ribbon of colors swirling with all the excitement.

Thank you @Aurora chasers for bringing Aurora so close to me even though I am so far away ..

I dream of this beautiful view every night and i hope my biggest wish will come true some day...

 

That's my letter to the Heaven’s Beauty.. 😉

I believe that dreams come true…so keep chasing them in your thoughts and win them, just make them come true 😊 

Hope you enjoyed reading this ..I Would love to hear your thoughts on this article, please share your thoughts and ideas in the comment box.

Just say NO~ Do not say yes when you want to say No

Just say NO

Do not say yes when you want to say No

It is Saturday evening when I am chilling with my dog petting him and watching movie and the door bell rings,

I did not wanted to get up but the continuous ring made me get out of the couch and open the door.

It was none other than my super mom at the door, holding two heavy bags and her handbag which was almost hanging and could trip off her shoulder anytime,

Restlessly walks in says “ Beta  , can you please get sambar powder, I realized that I missed to buy one “

 Like always after all her shopping she misses out to get something that was much needed for her to cook.

And I immediately said “Noooooooooo”…mom please yaa not again , I don’t want to miss this climax , so please NO.



Mommy without leaving any option walked away saying “get one if you want to have your favorite dish tonight”

Now why would I miss out having my favorite food on a weekend , of course I did not wanted to .

At the same time I did not want to miss watching the climax,so immediately without thinking much about it –“Ok , let me finish watching this and I shall get one” I said.

And on my way it reminds me of Mayank, my friend whom I must have met last weekend after 5 long years I reckon.

It just triggered, let me be honest..;)

So Upon asking him about his workplace he did not seem to be happy with his job role..  as he said “people just get their things done and take all the credits but are not appreciative”

I wondered if that was really not common in competitive world where everyone seems to be rushing and asked –“acha, is that not something common?”

He looked quiet dejected and said one thing “ it’s not easy to say “NO”, I feel people just get things done  and I’m left out“

There was silence for sometime and the waiter comes in to serve our order..

Breaking the silence I jumped in asking –“why is that difficult , if you can’t manage just say ..No” at the same time I was wondering if could do this at a work place.

Well ,i understood that not just his performance but it also caused stress at some stage.

Goshhhhh sounds easy but pretty difficult if you have lot of commitments, saying No is like to follow your gut feeling 😉

Well,

I have been trying to write about it since then and today I realize I could say No to my Mom because I knew that she wouldn’t mind me saying No,

 but if it was someone else at work or friend maybe I could have said yes.

Would I say yes even if that was not really important?

At some point of time each of us have been Mayank we must have agreed to do something that we did not wanted to do,

Why is that?

Because we become People pleasers- they are the Nicest and most helpful people you know. In fact they spend time doing things for others and are someone whom you can always count on.

Sounds good isn’t it ??

But sometimes this can lead to unhealthy behaviours.

Being the newest person in any workplace you will always try to fall into place in the team , you become extra nice to people and end up doing others task.

 Which in turn will of course affect your performance.

It may turn out to improve your performance or the other way round.

I am lucky enough to have people around whom I learnt from what was important, so maybe it was easy for me to say no to things which are not worth.

I happened to discuss this with someone and here is the idea shared –

So when do you say No,

Your Natural reaction would be –

when it is something out of your comfort zone, change in environment or you would say No when it is your habit of saying No to everything.

But how about your workplace , would you really say No for the above reasons?

Being an employee I should be able to add few reasons here for saying No.

1.You are afraid thinking that what would others think if you say NO and are not kind enough.

2.What if you fail completing the task within the given timeline.

3.You may lose having good relationship with the person.

The Fear of rejection basically

And end up saying -"Why couldn't I have just said no in the beginning?"

Etc ..etc ..etc what not , I’m sure you will have more to say..

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments

- You really need to understand this .

Here are few ways where you can decide on when and where to say NO.

1.Know Your Priorities.

If you do have some extra time,is this new commitment going to help you or your organization?

If yes then without thinking much say yes to it.

Say NO and Show them that your time is well guarded and you can turn down their requests (that are not on your top priority list).


2. Say Get back to you.

If you have no idea if that’s going to help you or not,

Best way is to buy some time in a very nice way like how you say yes to people but do not commit.

Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them.

This will allow you to collate data , analyse and check your commitments and priorities.

If this is not something that you can finish it within the given time or not going to help you in any way then

Explain the reason for saying No in a Firm way, where again don’t forget that you are being polite and not apologizing or being nice.

"Let me think about it first and I’ll get back to you."

"I’m not the best person to help on this. Why don’t you try someone else?"

These are couple of sentences I can think of ..

Remember ,If you love who you are and respect what you are doing the world would follow you,

You would never be able to reach your potential if you are trying to be all the things to all the people.

People pleasing syndrome holds you back, it may make you lose your identity and may not let you see your core values.

You feel treated badly, feel being used when it doesn’t work even after saying yes and working hard on this ..it’s an emotional stress to another level you know what I mean.

I think this comes from the emotion which is fear of losing people or relations.

Trust me no one would mind you saying NO, at some point they will need to come back to you for some or the other reason,

Don’t be afraid of losing people, people who are genuine will definitely stay with you.

You will truly enjoy life, if you stop being people pleasing and apologetic.

The magic is when you start treating yourself with love and respect.

With this simple thought I would like to close this here  -

“Whenever you are saying yes to others make sure you are not saying NO to yourself."Yes "will have lot of value if you learn the art of saying NO.” -Anonymous

Learning to Slow Down~ Because slowing down is sometimes the best way to speed up..

Learning to Slow Down~ Because slowing down is sometimes the best way to speed up..

           

In last few days I find everything that is happening is more of lesson, constantly I have been asking myself to slow down..

I am someone who loves being quick in what I do because there are deadlines to meet and

to meet them we need to be swift.

Which I’m sure all of us do love and would like to be one  if we are not quick..

Fair enough but not all the times ..These days I don’t know if it is really good to be quick at times.

Whatever has happened in last few days has made me think about it..

Slowing down is something I’ve been thinking about in last few months- You may find me silly saying this,

Yes, I made mistakes and the reason was providing quick solution as I was being more productive.

And the results left me saying “Oh , no”, “Crap”, “Shit”, “I should have confirmed once”, “Should have done this and that”

You know lot of regrets ….

There was nothing uncontrollable… trust me , I could have controlled or avoided mess.

Being quick and productive is always considered to be one of the best quality, as you are praised by your friends, colleagues and even you believe that you’re doing something well and continue to be the same.

I was once told “ Don’t provide immediate solutions , instead think from all different views ,analyse and provide a solution”

And I just nodded ..

Because it all went above my head and was too complicated to understand– because even here my thought was- why do I have to think about giving a solution when I know the answer and waste time,

See now you know how quick I wanted to be always, so it really took a while to understand what this guy meant ..

To be honest ,I gave up solving this sentence after a week or so ..

I happened  to  discuss this with Deepak about the feedback shared and his opinion was  -“Right, I agree you need to think and take action but the amount of time should not be too long or it will lose its essence”  makes sense…but then I felt he again made it too complicated  for me ,

So there should be some sort of balancing is what he meant.

I began experimenting with slowing down.

So - How can you be chilled out.. i mean to say calm and not busy and at the same time still effective ,dependable and productive?-   was something I had to work on..

·I always felt anxious when i rushed and then  as advised by every Parents  and maybe every odd person you know,

Drink water and stay calm, 

it truly reduces stress and anxiety or you know when you feel like you are rushing.



For the sake to stay out and think ,even if it is matter of minute it keeps you out of your work and gives you time for yourself..

·         We are sometimes so deeply involved in what we do that we do not pause ourselves and forget that someone really need our help and maybe waiting, (well ,I’m talking about our work environment)

Trust me , I have suffered many times when someone did not respond  upon waiting long and make you repeat things, it’s a pain I tell you ..

Pause yourself for a while and listen to the problem Instead of making someone repeat the same,

This will show how dependable you are and have some time for your colleague/employee and in turn will also save both of yours time.

·         Before providing a solution even if you know the answer, it is always better to challenge your thoughts-

                    Is this likely to happen?

                   Recall if this has happened before?

                  What’s the worst that can happen? Can we handle that?

(Well, I have put these questions here as I missed to check all these before I provided a solution to my peer.) So, you can add up questions depending upon the situation.

·         Always provide a space and an opportunity for people to present their ideas and to come up with their own solutions.

       When you rush to provide a solution to someone else's problem, it may be the wrong sometimes

                           
Your solution might be right, but if you jump in too soon with all the answers, you could miss out on something that could be far better.

·         Last but not the least, Make it your goal to work smarter  by finding strategies.

I tried this for few months and it worked smoothly…there were of course some extra efforts to remind myself often , pooja.. calm down ..think ..analyse was always there though..

However, before I could put this across my blogs i wanted one of the leaders to share their opinion about this or if rushing was good to stay productive.

One whom I haven’t closely worked with but know that he is smart and hard working at the same time.

So yes,One of the operations lead.. It was again easy to walk upto him and ask how he managed to stay calm and  productive ..

And he had to say this–

“Human should always keep the control with oneself, the moment you lose your patience you are giving your remote control to others.So we need to keep patience and relaxed so that we take the right decision at right time by ourself. Not by giving control to others.”-
So here patience is the key . ..isn’t it ?

So here it is all about losing opportunities if you aren’t patient enough..once the remote is controlled by someone else you lose the opportunity to grow.

Do you take time to answer even when you know the fix?- was my next question-

And his immediate response was-

“I never rush, I think and calculate atleast 3 steps ahead ..no knee jerk reaction”.

That’s how they manage to stay calm and speed up things they do by slowing down.

So basically, In everything we do we want to be quicker, more efficient and more productive, which is good but sometimes hazardous.

So stop rushing and slow down, worry less, make fewer mistakes and stay Focussed.

As someone said - "At the end of the day,you can't control the results;you can only control your effort level and your focus"

Be a Leader ,Not the Boss~Live to Lead

Be  A leader, Not the Boss

~Live to lead

“Yeah, they share and for that you need to be approachable “ – was his reply at the end of the series of questions I asked ..
so what does this bring to your mind when I talk from an employee perspective ..
This was very clear to me and I had no questions after this ..

I write articles to communicate ideas and values that have empowered and influenced me to find a path. I hope that readers find practical ideas and they can use in their work life.

I have closely worked with few people who I must say have taught many different ways to lead life ..

My Dad of course who has always been an example for his love and concern towards family apart from this I have also seen him giving more importance to work and people who work for him.

 I’ve seen him leading both work and personal life which I’m sure all of us do when it comes to responsibility , but this was something I have seen closely and that makes me write.

And then when it comes to hard work and commitment again Deepak has always been an influencer.

I think you’ll agree with me when I say:

Being a leader is one of most difficult AND rewarding positions.

Time management, people engagement, Empathy, sympathy,collaboration with the team are all the terms that we have heard of in sessions conducted for employees, students and maybe read in most of the articles but it isn’t really easy to deploy or say bring things in action when needed at times and I knew there was something more that I should understand.

Do you think good communication skills are necessary for a leader?

What do you think about risk-taking abilities?

Are they essential for a top-manager?

Were the questions that springed my mind  many times when working with couple of teams,

I Failed at times to portray the leadership skills(I’m talking about handling small teams ) when I found people with different attitude.

All this sounds easy when you know that the person is ready to listen , what if he is not someone who doesn’t want to understand.

I always wanted to know how Deepak managed to work with people carrying distinct attitude,

So my first question to him was –“How do you manage handling people who have been in the process for a long time and knows more than you..”

“If someone knows more than me then I shall appreciate his/her knowledge and assign tasks where they can excel .” he replied --- Fair enough isn’t it?

This single statement reflects below qualities and are more likely to be qualities of a leader.

Appreciative:

From what he said, this was the first quality that comes to my mind .When you really want to do something meaningful for others and make them smile ,having this quality can make it .

As I have always mentioned in my blogs showing Gratitude is one of the best quality I have learnt from few around.

And this is what Rhonda Byrne’s “Secret” is all about.

People around you will connect more when they feel genuinely valued and appreciated.

And that is why you should appreciate your parents, friends, colleagues and helpers and may be more and more.

Fair:

You can rarely think of this right ..?

When you really feel treated unfairly that’s when you think about it ..

So when it comes to work I think being Fair is being honest and Not partial.

This is again a very different topic to talk about ..however precisely it is to be open and genuine and say what you mean . Then people will know what to expect from you.

Responsive:

Does it really benefit us? Yes, in many ways ..

Being responsive makes you decide,exhibit and conduct which will improve others and yourself .

 I have seen people approaching Deepak for each and every matter, so he is highly effective and accessible.


You are considered to be responsive if you are effective and approachable to everyone.

Hence you shouldn’t isolate yourself from the team.  If you are one such responsible,Your teammates will depend on you for them to respond promptly.

Honesty & Transparency:

When I have made mistakes, I wasn’t criticized for being wrong but quality feedback was shared.

At the same time I was encouraged and appreciated for the good work.

Many leaders hesitate to be transparent because they worry they’ll be viewed less as a leader.

But that isn’t true..Effective communication and quality feedback creates more positive effect

Be it treating employees Fairly, setting clear expectations and at the same time taking the responsibility of the end results are all nothing but factors of being honest and transparent.

In short, my understanding is that as an employer he Created clarity of his employees purpose, Enabled the mindset (determination, will), the skillset (technical or soft skills) and unlocked the potential so that we deliver excellence within our role .

This builds self confidence and ignites self motivation.

I did have series of questions about different people however ended up with informative conversation.

So at the end of our conversation answering to one of them ,he said (reminding you of the first lines) “Yeah, they share and for that you need to be approachable “…

If you gotta be a leader , 

• you will need to listen,when I say listen I mean spend extra time  and  pay attention ,
• show them that you care ,
• Make time to talk to everyone and make your people feel comfortable

Not just being a leader but even when it comes to an employee who just started working ,having these qualities of showing leadership and ownership should help you grow quickly and collaborate with the other employees.

Pretty sure now that this should be the reason for having young leaders ..

So yea .. try to be someone you expect others to be , let others experience good leader in you!!