Balance
or Choice??
As I
write this post, sipping the healthy White Tea, I reflect on
the past few years. Looking through my Google Photos, I see a story--- 2021-2022
was about making choices, 2023 was a year of lessons, and 2024 has been a year
of transformation and renewal. It’s a perfect moment to pause, appreciate how
far I’ve come, and feel excited for what’s ahead.
I’d like to share something I learnt this year about making choices. It all started with the idea of balancing…
Balance….balancing…is this really called balancing.. how do you do it?- I always wondered..
Ever heard of the frequency of illusion?It happens when you start noticing something more often after learning about it, or when something’s been on your mind for a long.
The term “Work-Life-Balance” has become more popular, since the pandemic hit. This has become more than just a buzzword- and I have been thinking if it is truly about balancing....!!
Is balance the right word to describe ?… Is it truly about balance?
I
kept hearing about it and seeing references to it, yet I couldn’t find out what it meant to me.
A Moment of Clarity
The
typical quiet space now buzzed with new voices and perspectives.
The
space is vibrant, and the shelves are adorned with awards and trophies, showcasing
the organization's achievements.
There is a large table at the center. This room is usually blocked for staff meetings; however, for now, it is set up for different occasion.
The employees gathered around the table, their faces filled with curiosity, excitement, and respect.
The atmosphere is filled with eagerness, There is a conversation on the diversity and growth opportunities.Each individual brings their unique perspective to the table. The leader seated comfortably, with genuine interest, listened intently, nodding and engaging thoughtfully.
As
the conversation unfolded, a question about work-life balance came up, for
which the leader gave a very unusual, thought-provoking answer. This introduced a fresh perspective that I had never considered before, pulling my
focus toward something that resonated with what I had been looking for.
So
he said– “ It’s never a balance…, it’s always a choice and this statement was
made by one of the Women leaders I met....”
The room fell silent. The realization hit me like a ton of bricks.
Suddenly, I
realized how wrong I had been in thinking about balance., my thoughts racing, I
started reflecting on my own choices and how I had been framing them as
sacrifices.
As I
pondered this idea further, I found this video on Youtube- TED talk by Sheena Iyengar on the Art of Making Choices.
I
recommend you watch her TED talk, she brilliantly outlines the art of making
choices. The key point I found here is that we cannot always choose what
happens to us, but we can always choose how we react to it.
The more clearly we understand our passion, our values, and where we want to be, the more empowered we are to make the right choices.
In
this blog, I want to share some key takeaways about making choices and finding
a sense of balance.
These
ideas come from various topics from a few of the books that I’ve read and have helped
me shape my thinking. Two of them are listed below-
Narrowing
down the concepts, I can outline these key points clearly.
This
will help you choose what really matters to you.
The first thing that comes to my mind when talking about decisions is, keeping the options minimal. In one of the articles that I’ve read – The Paradox of Choice – the author talks about Decision fatigue, if there are too many things that you have, you end up choosing nothing.
So, keep your options lesser, it is
effective and less time-consuming. Decide what’s important, Clarify, prioritize, and then plan ahead.
3. The
Responsibility- Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving AF, describes
owning the responsibilities after making your choices.
He says nobody else is ever responsible for your situation but you. You always get to choose how you see things, how you react to things, and how you value things.
4. Trust your Gut-
I wouldn’t have included this if I had not seen the Instagram post about Late. Sir Ratan Tata, an Indian Industrialist… who once said - "I don't believe in making the right decisions, I take decisions and then make them right."
These lines have touched many of us...If you have taken up something, then focus on making it right instead of regrets.
Conclusion-
At the end of the day, it's the choices you make that shape your balance. When you approach decisions with more clarity and intent, finding balance becomes natural. So, Trust in your choices, and you will discover the balance you seek.